Tuesday, October 26, 2010

The Lowdown on Sexual Fantasies

THE TOP THREE MALE FANTASIES
Threesomes, anal sex and being dominated, according to sex therapist Lou Paget, author of The Big 0.

HE TOP THREE I FEMALE FANTASIES
Seduction by a dream lover, being dominated and sex with a stranger. 'Fantasies about violent sex - being taken or dominated - are very common,' says sex therapist Denise Knowles from Relate, 'but that doesn't mean you're disturbed or want it to happen,. The key to a fantasy is that you're in charge, direct the drama, and can stop it: Psychotherapist Gael Lindenfield thinks rape fantasies come from your primitive brain and have nothing to do with what you want or need in today's world.

ALSO IN THE TOP 10 (FOR BOTH GENDERS)
Group sex, lesbian sex, being watched, seducing being seduced.

DOES FANTASISING MEAN YOU'RE MENTALLY UNFAITHFUL? 
No! say therapists. 'Bad thoughts are not as bad as bad deeds,' says Lindenfield. 'They just mean you have a healthy imagination; says Paget But if your head turns you on more than the person in your bed, ifs time to look at your relationship. 'Fantasies are usually telling you that you want something different in your relationship,' says Lindenfield, 'more adventure, romance assertiveness, closeness or touch.'

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