Is there anything in this world of sorrow is stronger than the loss of her child? What horror experienced by women at this point? What words can describe it? And how to describe the pain of losing an unborn child?
The history of life ...
Terror pervades the entire body from this single word - a miscarriage. I think this is a word worse than the word abortion. On abortion a woman is deliberately different reasons. It's her choice, and only her responsible for it. On a man, and endowed with reason to have it right - the right choice. It is quite another matter - a miscarriage.Here a woman can not influence it. The only thing she is - you need to survive. Easy to say, but hard to do. How to realize that the child that you carried under my heart just was not in a moment! And nothing you can do about it. And no amount of persuasion of doctors at this point just do not reach your consciousness. You gutted; in you so much emptiness, it seems that the universe itself can not accommodate it, no matter how endless it was not. One can not but recall the words of the song: "... broader universe my sorrow ..." "And it does not matter at this point that the child you have not even seen, do not keep on hand, do not breastfeed. It is untrue that the embryo, some even a child as such is not considered. For a woman, even a 2-week fetus - it is her child! Its a piece! Her life!
Certainly in the life of virtually every woman lived through such a history. If not with herself, then with someone of her friends or acquaintances. Doctors say that this is absolutely normal - if there is a spontaneous miscarriage, especially in the early stages, it's a good thing, because the body gets rid of the genetic faults. What would have been better - the birth of a child with congenital abnormalities, and all kinds or spontaneous miscarriage? And even very well that a spontaneous miscarriage, will not have to resort to intervention in a woman's body. From the standpoint of logic - this is reasonable, but is in such moments the mind is subservient to us? And who can understand us? It seems that life stopped that grief just flooded you.
But the man - a great miracle! Given him the ability to survive. And even such a terrible event such as miscarriage, you can survive. And we need! It is necessary, first of all to themselves. Because no one does it for you itself. The sooner you do, the better for you. Never asked themselves why so many women who have experienced abortion or miscarriage bad for a long time can not get pregnant again, although there were no contraindications in terms of medicine they do not go? And after many years, desperately trying to conceive, they adopt other people's children and, miracle!Some time after the appearance of the family of another child - a woman suddenly appears a such a welcome! Psyche - something very, very thin, and unexplored. But even with such of its obscurity, traced certain laws.
When let go that does not give you peace, unexpectedly for myself gettin 'it in abundance. Therefore, my dear, dear woman, do not torment yourself! Do not blame yourself! Just accept it as is and let go! Believe me, believe in yourself, believe in what you are unique, that you are unique, that your body - is the greatest miracle that can heal itself. But he needs your belief and faith in this.
I myself experienced a similar feeling, not once. I had six miscarriages! Just think!Six! And all at a very early period - 6-7 weeks. And for nearly ten years walking on all sorts of doctors, clinics, a lot of tests, even a large pile of pricks! And the utter helplessness of doctors who just shrugged and said that there is nothing medicine can not do, I'm healthy. A cause of early miscarriages set and could not. Each time after a miscarriage, I almost went crazy, I had no tears. Whenever I see a mother with a baby, I started having hysterics. I went to a psychologist, I sat down on a sedative.Nothing helped. Most depresses me is that I'm all over the vinyl itself. Do not just vinyl, and executed a cruel punishment for the fact that in 19 years took its first abortion.
Usual story - random "zalet" stupidity, independent attempts in a panic to get rid of the child. Naturally, a huge scandal in the family. (My upbringing was very strict. So much for the consequences!) Morally beaten, intimidated and pushed into an abortion.When I returned home, swallowed a pill. (What kind of mind at that age?) Pumped. A scar in the soul remains. And away the carousel! And after six miscarriages, I resigned. How, you ask? Do not know. Just herself forgiven for his mistake and released the pain. We all have a right to choose and the right of errors. You just need to learn how to afford to make mistakes.
I have already decided to adopt a child, began to gather information. And the result was not long in coming. Now I have a loving and loved my daughter, and I'm happy!What do you and sincerely wish!
In conclusion, I want to say to all mothers who have daughters - do not leave them if they happened to such a situation! Support them, help them! They experience as you are. They are painful and frightening. You need them more than ever! Scary is when you see how mom drags her sixteen-year-daughter to an abortion when she cries all the gynecological ward: "Mom, do not!" A mother pushes her swearing in the cabinet.And it's over! And there is no longer a child of love, there is only pain. And the horror!Well, if the child survives it safely, and if not? If this was her only opportunity to become a mother?
Everyone is entitled to his choice and no matter how old he is.
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